I still struggle with what fantasies I would "allow" myself.
Yeah, me too! I have this huuuuge kink for stories about courtesans and prostitutes and looooove, and I know it's hugely problematic given the general romanticization of prostitution and the prostitute with heart of gold trope and the state of sex workers in real life.
I like your focus on "also" instead of "instead"! Because I generally think guilt about fantasies doesn't work very well and just leads to self-hate, which is not helpful! And it sort of ties into the idea of patterns and politicization, how if someone writes or reads a lot of stuff in which the woman is the subordinate, it's very different if said person also reads and writes stuff with powerful women of all ages and sizes, versus if that person only ever reads or writes about men in power.
That's how I've been trying to tell if I am unconsciously biased -- do I just not like this particular black character? Or do I somehow manage to find reasons not to like all black characters?
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Date: 2007-08-26 07:27 am (UTC)Yeah, me too! I have this huuuuge kink for stories about courtesans and prostitutes and looooove, and I know it's hugely problematic given the general romanticization of prostitution and the prostitute with heart of gold trope and the state of sex workers in real life.
I like your focus on "also" instead of "instead"! Because I generally think guilt about fantasies doesn't work very well and just leads to self-hate, which is not helpful! And it sort of ties into the idea of patterns and politicization, how if someone writes or reads a lot of stuff in which the woman is the subordinate, it's very different if said person also reads and writes stuff with powerful women of all ages and sizes, versus if that person only ever reads or writes about men in power.
That's how I've been trying to tell if I am unconsciously biased -- do I just not like this particular black character? Or do I somehow manage to find reasons not to like all black characters?