I totally agree with you that some kinks/preferences/fetishes change. So I have a hard time when someone says, "This is just what I fantasize about, I have no control over it!" Some of what creates a kink is outside our control, but some of it isn't, and, well, I have issues.
So much of fandom is about catering to the id, unthinkingly, ignoring any other messages we're actually receiving or perpetuating. A lot of it is harmless, depending on the context. Some of it may not be, again, depending on the context. But "kink" is privileged in fandom so strongly that even raising an eyebrow at it gets you the stinkeye in some quarters. Because having an opinion means I'm oppressing someone's exploration of their sexuality, you see.
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Date: 2007-08-24 06:06 pm (UTC)So much of fandom is about catering to the id, unthinkingly, ignoring any other messages we're actually receiving or perpetuating. A lot of it is harmless, depending on the context. Some of it may not be, again, depending on the context. But "kink" is privileged in fandom so strongly that even raising an eyebrow at it gets you the stinkeye in some quarters. Because having an opinion means I'm oppressing someone's exploration of their sexuality, you see.
Argh.